✭HOW TO CONSTRUCTIVELY USE THE VENUS RETROGRADE PERIOD✭
From MAY 12-13 through JUNE 24-25 2020 the planet Venus will be
retrograde. The retrograde motion of an inner planet is an apparent
phenomenon as viewed from earth in which Venus appears to move backwards
in the sky. Every 1 ½ years, when Venus moves approximately 29 degrees
ahead of the Sun (in the astrological ephemeris), it will begin to move
backwards in the sky until it reaches a point approximately 21 to 29
degrees behind the Sun.
When Venus is retrograde, it provides lessons in evaluating the real
worth and value of people and things in our life (Taurus-Libra issues).
With existing relationships, this cycle produces experiences wherein it
is easier to discern the relative worth and value of these people in
your life.
Discrimination is more effective. You become readily aware of any
problems, differences or unresolved issues. It is NOT a time, however,
to act upon any unfavorable awareness. It is purely a time of evaluation
rather than direct action. As little frictions and disagreements crop
up, they serve to remind you that the relationship is not perfect. Under
the retrograde influence, you must assess the severity of the problem
and the "cost-benefit" of the relationship. Only after Venus
turns direct should you initiate any alienation if this is deemed
necessary.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCES:
* During retrograde period in Gemini, I came to the realization that a
woman, whose Moon was in Gemini, only valued my friendship as a paying
customer and not a true friend. I did not end the relationship but I
placed her in the "acquaintance" category.
* The 2004 Gemini transit was surprisingly favorable for relationships
in general but a friend with Venus in Gemini in the 12th felt unloved
and unappreciated...until Venus turned direct. An advertisement
that I bought at the time was a relative loss and, though over-extending
my self with too much relating with others, I was exhausted and
contracted the Epstein-Barr Virus.
* On the day that Venus turned retrograde in Scorpio, I was able to tell
a woman, who had greatly angered me in the past, why I was angry with
her - that she was always using me and taking advantage of me. It was
different from what she expected and she seemed relieved.
* In Scorpio, I observed a friend being very unkind to an elderly family
member. I also observed that she has no patience with people who are
ill. While Venus was in Scorpio, I was shocked but I said nothing. Later
I knew that this is a great friend whom I care about dearly...but I will
just not go to her when I am ill!
* When Venus was in Scorpio, I felt resentful of needy, overly sweet and
manipulative people.
* When Venus was Retrograde in Capricorn, I was out of control with
eating and my self-esteem was non-existent! A man became very angry when
I did not teach astrology classes as I had intended. He took it upon
himself to call local astrologers and attack my reputation. While this
was disturbing, I became aware of people who did not defend me when he
attacked me. I learned who I could trust.
* With regard to financial issues, a store credited 40¢ to my account
when I actually paid $40. It took months to straighten this out.
* In Virgo into Leo, I was depressed a lot, feeling alone and isolated
and feeling sorry for myself for the most part as Venus retrograded back
into my 12th House. Health problems became a major issue for a lot of
people. With Venus in Leo, we were very aware that our needs were not
being met.
* In Aries, it was entirely different! I attended a conference in
Serbia. I met some wonderful people who urged me to get on an E-List and
this changed my life. I later learned that many people did not size up
my personality correctly. As a 12th House person in the midst of
outgoing people, I came across as shy and not very knowledgeable. In
later meetings, they were amazed that I was not this way at all. I have
subsequently become very good friends with many of the people I met in
Belgrad.
*Overall, many people contacted me who I had not seen for a long time.
Over and over again with each Venus Retrograde, people re-connected from
my past!
* In 2007, I had my Greatest Astrological Picnic with Venus Retrograde.
As advertised, many people from my past attended and a lot of shy people
came because they felt that it would be a special day for shy people.
Everyone commented that this was the best picnic ever. People
really helped with the clean-up which has not always happened.
* In late December 2013 through January 2014, I reconnected with people
from my elementary school. Since so many of my friends have died
or moved away, reconnecting with people from my past has been very
helpful. Venus was in Capricorn at the time.
Sometimes we do experience relationship difficulties and stresses but,
if it is a good relationship, the differences will not affect the
quality of association. It is important to realize that, in a
relationship, the problems that you experience in the beginning of the
union will always be there and only get worse in time. These are the
basic differences between you and the other person. You should make an
evaluation at the time of Venus retrograde to determine if you can
tolerate and understand these differences. I have been through many
Venus Retrograde cycles and the good relationships are still with me.
While we can readily distinguish the problems in a current relationship,
this will not be true of a relationship formed while Venus is
retrograde. Because the retrograde motion alters our perspective, we are
unable to see the obvious and we can too easily misread the signals.
Before eloping or making wedding plans, wait until Venus turns direct to
get a balanced perspective. This Venus does not imply deception but
rather a distorted perspective and attitude. Faulty presumptions can be
easily made. For example, if you meet someone at the tennis court, it
does not necessarily mean that the person likes tennis. Maybe that
person was simply there to pick up a friend! These presumptions can
cause erroneous evaluations and eventual disappointment when we discover
that the person of our dreams is not what we thought at all!
In August-September 2015, I felt that another period was disappointed in
me. This made me despondent but all was fine after it turned
Direct.
Where there are existing difficulties in a relationship, the retrograde
Venus period offers an opportunity for reconciliation. People are often
feeling unloved, unappreciated and disappointed while Venus is
retrograde. They feel that they should be getting more out of their
relationships. This is particularly true when Venus transits the 7th and
12th Houses. When a person is in a mood that makes them feel that nobody
cares, it is an excellent time to make a "hat-in-hand" apology
to restore a relationship with someone who is hurt. Any sincere apology
will be graciously received. During the 2002 Retrograde, I found it
easier to have good heart-to-heart talks with friends, something I
really needed to do. My new perspective was the depth of kindness in so
many of my friends.
Being the natural ruler of the 2nd House, Venus has dominion over
certain financial affairs. This is NOT a good time for investing or
starting new financial activities. The value of the product or commodity
is often inflated or over-valued so that losses will occur when Venus
turns direct. Splurging on substitutes for feeling loved can be costly
and paying for this with Capricorn dollars can be difficult! A Capricorn
friend has a predilection for making investments while either Mercury or
Venus are retrograde. Needless to say, the only benefit that he has
received is a hefty write-off on his taxes for his losses.
While Venus is retrograde, it is not a time to purchase any so-called
luxury items. You will be motivated by impractical considerations so
that, what looks gorgeous in the store, may turn out to be the ugliest
thing you have ever seen once Venus turns direct! The inclination is to
purchase items that you will not like and you cannot return.
No discussion of Venus retrograde would be complete without mentioning
my redheaded friend who bought a purple coat (on sale - could not be
returned) while Venus was retrograde. Another man signed a lease on an
apartment with a gorgeous sunken living room. So enamored of its beauty
was this man that he did not consider the long-term financial strain.
This retrograde does have excellent financial benefits if you know how
to use them.
First, because people are motivated by impractical considerations in
making purchases, it is the perfect time to unload something that no one
would buy except when Venus is retrograde. Someone is sure to see its
inner beauty and feel that they cannot live without it. They may regret
it later but that is not your problem. Working with the inflated value
of this Venus transit makes this an excellent time to unload stocks,
real estate and unwanted items. Then, use the money gained to pay off
debts.
✭ Venus retrograde is an excellent time for buying antiques, flea
market items and secondhand goods wherein you know the real worth and
value of the item but the seller does not.
Years ago when I first studied astrology, I warned my parents about
spending excessively on an antiquing trip when Venus was retrograde. To
my surprise, they came back with the best bargains! They discovered many
valuable antiques with very low prices because the seller did not know
their value. Purchasing real estate is not always a problem with Venus
retrograde. If you know that the property is a bargain, you can make an
excellent deal. Discrimination is essential. Do not be motivated by a
flashy appearance.
According to Delphine Jay, who has lectured extensively on retrogrades,
she finds that Venus retrograde is a favorable time for re-negotiating a
financial situation such as a contract or bank loan. It can be helpful
in resolving a long-standing legal matter. When Venus is station (around
the retrograde/direct dates), it is a good time to change lawyers.
Mary Shea states that this is a time to reflect on the inner value of
your experiences rather than outer display. Material rewards may be
delayed and material or possessions that you expect to acquire may not
manifest. A luxury item purchased may not please you in the long run.
Relationships started now will be associated with inhibitions -
clandestine or possibly more spiritual.
Something may be withheld and, if so, someone will be disappointed.
Existing relationships may be up for review. Outer assurances and
displays of love and affection are not readily evident. Old friends and
lost loves may be contacted for a second look.
My friend and late astrologer, Pat Geisler, says:
While the favorable transits from Venus retrograde offer an opportunity
to benefit from this transit, the afflictions cause us the most
difficulty, especially in relationships. The planets involved describe
some of these problems.
This is a general description of Venus afflicting a natal planet:
Sun: A time of general poor cooperation and hurt feelings. You feel that
you do not get the recognition that you deserve. Pride issues can
present problems.
Moon: A time of overly sensitive moods and hurt feelings. It someone
gets upset with you, back off and allow the mood to pass. The person is
over-reacting and irrational. There is nothing that you can really do.
Attempts to appease will only make matters worse.
Mercury: A time of sensitivity through disagreement and not seeing
eye-to-eye. Hurt feelings with something said. Watch communications on
this date.
Venus: A general time of poor cooperation, feeling unloved and
unappreciated. The sign that Venus is not transiting will block the sign
needs shown by the natal Venus sign position.
Mars: Anger and jealousy can cause relating problems. Someone met at
this time will have an unsettling affect upon your life. Hormones rule
over reason. Love-hate situation in relating.
Jupiter: This aspect will cause phoniness and role playing in a
relationship. If the person seems too nice or if the opportunity seems
too good to be true, know that it is an unrealistic situation.
Saturn: Responsibilities and the demands of others will make you feel
unloved and unappreciated. Learn to say NO!
Uranus: Unpredictability and erratic behavior in a relationship or an
attraction to an unpredictable person is indicated. A very unstable time
in both relationships and finances. Emotional upsets, financial problems,
rebellious spending.
Neptune: A time of deception and misreading signals. You may be dealing
with an ambivalent person. Your own passivity can get you into trouble
now. Disappointment in relating.
Pluto: Relating can be intense, controlling and manipulative.
Overwhelming behavior can be a signal of attention needs. Back away from
any relationship that seems karmic!
Transpluto: Criticism by a perfectionist person will cause a separation
and alienation.
Ascendant: Your sense of self-worth, self-esteem and sense of lovability
are not good now. You can start to feel sorry for yourself and feel
disappointed in others who may not meet your needs...at least, in the
manner that you anticipate.
